Dating at forty
As it turns out, we have lived five blocks from each other since the '90s and probably walked past each other dozens of times over the years. By the time I went to Provincetown that summer, I no longer wanted a relationship.
I had the average mortal checked off as a "no" at "hello." But more fundamentally speaking, how did a 40-something get that first date?It’s not likely to happen like that at this age, and on the rare occasions when it does, the relationship is usually based on nothing more than lust. A mature woman who values herself doesn’t want to date a man who’s a victim or stuck in the past.Would you rather crash and burn or have a slow sizzle that bursts into hot flames over time? She’s going to walk away and find a grownup guy.◊♦◊Guys, correct me if I’m wrong, but I believe there’s a ‘lid for every pot’, a body type for every guy. Those things are far more important than a Harvard or Yale degree, or whether or not he speaks Mandarin.◊♦◊People in big cities say it’s hard to meet anyone.Here’s what they said, followed by my thoughts on how they might overcome these dating problems and attract their best relationship.◊♦◊This is a common complaint from women. So guys, please pay attention to more than the boobs and the butt.The other B, the brain, is just as important, especially as you’re getting to know a woman. Anyone who’s looking for a true connection is more likely to find it with someone closer to their age.